So I have always loved the idea of Messy Play, I mean I am not the tidiest person in the world so why wouldn’t I. But when I had the kids I realised I really wasn’t so sure about it, funnily enough I like my children to look clean and smart.
When Grayson started a therapy programme back when he was 2 they included Messy Play to try to break some of his sensory barriers, but he really didn’t take well to it, so after trying for a couple of months we all decided to stop as it was just upsetting him.
But lately I have seen so many benefits to Messy Play, not only since they do it in his Pre School to try to combat sensory processing issues but also online with other bloggers and how he brings great interaction for Parent/Child relationships but also for the childs own imagination.
When I think back to being a child most of my happiest memories are out in the garden making mud pies and building outdoor camps, all Messy Play of my time.
I kept trying little bits of Messy Play but it didn’t work as I couldn’t stand the mess, then the gorgeous Emma of Me, The Man and The Baby showed off some pics of her boys playing in a Tuff Spot. I was won over straight away, a way of the kids trying messy play and containing it. So my little brother bought a Tuff Spot for the kids for their Birthday this month, as soon as I saw it I knew Grayson would love banging his legs on it, he loves to hear loud noises under his feet.
Then last Thursday just before bath time we had a spare hour so I thought this is the perfect opportunity to try out Messy Pay, but what ? I remembered seeing some kids playing with Moon Sand. I knew I had a big bottle of Aldi Baby Oil and some cheap flour so this was achievable, quick and cheap and would give me a chance to see how Grayson reacted to a new texture.
It’s a simple process to make, I decided to go for a small amount as I wasn’t sure how they would be with it, so we did 2 1/2 cups of flour to 1 cup of baby oil.
Addison went on 1st, she was unsure, she decided to throw a great deal of it around the house 1st (keep calm Kara) but then after 10 minutes started squashing it in her toes and fingers, we then got some of her fave rubber ducks out and a great wooden truck from DKL. She started driving threw with the tipper and the ducks really liked the sand.
Once Addy had started to get a little bored she went up for her bath and I decided to try Grayson, Grayson works better in quiet on one to one basis so I knew this would be the best time.
As predicted he loved the noise the Tuff Spot made as he banged his feet, what I was hugely surprised about was how he instantly touched the Moon Sand, this is not usually how Grayson is, he is usually so wary, it was lovely to see him touch it and feel it in is fingers, after a couple of minutes he tried his usual trick of eating it, but was willing to put it down and play with it again.
Grayson managed about 5 minutes which is a huge step for him, I am really excited to try out some other Messy Play to see if we can overcome some of his issues.
You can see videos of both babies playing over on my you tube page.
Do you have ideas for this Messy Play Novice, something suitable for a 2-year-old Minx and a little boy who is about 10 months developmentally, please leave suggestions or links, I would appreciate it.
I could watch him forever
I have been a 1st time Mummy not once, not even twice but I shall be a 3rd time again when Sweetpea is born.
My 1st Time
Let me explain, when Grayson was born I was literally a 1st time Mummy, what an amazing time it was, the way I felt for Grayson has no words, to hold him, to see/smell him, to care for him, my 1st Son, a child who suffered from Birth but always continued to smile and give me love.
As Grayson started to grow it became apparent things would never be “normal” – he would always be my 1st child and son, but he would never complete 1st time milestones like other children.
One of Grayson’s 1st’s – yes I like to remember them all.
2nd Time Being A 1st Time Mummy
When I found out Addison was going to be a girl I felt like a 1st time Mummy again, I am not sure if everyone feels this way when you know you are having a child of a different gender to your 1st but I did, the fundamentals are the same of course, she still is a tiny newborn baby, but the nappy changing is different, the way you dress them, even I think the relationship you form.
But as well as Addison being different cause she was a girl, there was the fact that she was “normal” – it became apparent life would be different as early as when she was 9 weeks old, she rolled over, we couldn’t believe it, each time she made a milestone, walking, talking etc it would bring so much joy along with a great deal of hurt, 1sts were in some respects tainted as it felt so upsetting that Grayson had not yet got to experience them and in all honesty whether he would.
But As They Say Time Is a Great Healer
I never thought it would be, but honestly it has been, don’t get me wrong there are still days where I will sob that Grayson doesn’t get to ask me for what he wants, to run to the slide as his sister does, but I have learnt to accept that is how life was supposed to be for some reason.
Plus as a Mummy you can not tarnish one childs achievements because another is different. Seeing Addison achieve big and small milestones brings me so much joy, like today, something so small to me feels so large.
Addison’s Drawing Today
Addison and I were playing with her colours (crayons) this morning, usually she just scribbles crazily on anything that comes into contact, over the past month she likes to try to identify the colours, which is great, but today she actually named to me what she drew, I mean they are still very clear squiggles with no definition, but to her they were, so I wrote against each drawing what they were, this will go up in our gallery at home, I love to remember these important times, these little things that feel huge in my heart, one day Grayson will find a way to follow in his Sisters footsteps, yes that’s the wrong way round but So What.
Our Wall of Art
Lastly 3rd Time Shall Be My 1st Time
Only as I wrote this post did I realise that *touches wood* Sweetpea will also be another 1st time Mummy experience, if he is what we hope for, he is a “normal” little boy, so yes he is my 2nd son, but he will be my 1st son without difficulties, he will be the 1st child, that holds a different place in my heart and I can’t wait to see how he does, when he starts to distinguish colours, when he starts to smile and when he realises he is the luckiest brother in the world to have Grayson and Addison to look up to.
Roll on being a Mummy to 3.