Love Life, Love Me – Start Of A Journey


6 years ago if you had asked me “Who I Was ?” I would have probably answered – “Ashley’s Wife, lover of all things Kitsch, Cake Baker and Jewellery Designer”. You would never see me leave the house without at least an hour spent getting ready, I would have manicured nails and high heels.

Fast forward to today and life is very different, I love my life, I love being a Mummy to my 3 babies and still Ashley’s wife but apart from this I am no one. I feel as if I have lost my identity, what makes me – me! I can’t remember the last time I had my nails done or had more than 10 minutes to get ready, lets not even talk about the heels under the bed.

Some would say I am shallow – that this all matters so much to me, but I fight this, no of course how I look is not the most important thing in life, but for me to be happy and healthy is and whether right or wrong a happy Kara on the inside is definitely determined by how I look on the outside.

So I am on a mission, to start a New Life and find the new & improved me!

I am going to find time for myself emotionally & physically, to benefit my children in the long-term. Time to look good, to get fit, learn new skills which allow my brain to relish in new tasks and educate myself.

How will I do this ?

I thought and thought and decided the only way I will achieve this and not fail is to lay myself bare to the world, my blogging world. To fight the fears and share how I look without the protection unit of a life behind a screen and clothes. To discuss my weight & food control journey, to build confidence and to teach myself that I can be HAPPY.

Each week I shall set myself 5 obtainable goals, they shall start easy so not to dishearten and over time increase in their difficulty.

They will include all aspects of my New Life – Weight/Fashion/Exercise/New Skills and More – starting the get fit journey as I take part in 2 big physical challenges next year, The Great South Run (For Grayson) and Climbing Mount Snowdon with Team R4Grayson. I shall learn how to make new homemade beauty remedies to save some pennies but whilst still helping me feel revived and good. As well as sharing my favourite items that I can’t live without.

I shall share my weight loss journey, not only beating the bulge, but trying to find out why I have such a huge control issue with food and how to overcome it the best and healthiest way possible.

Lastly start looking after my brain as well as my body, I have always loved to learn and just because I have children doesn’t mean I can not better myself, actually lets be honest it should be a reason to.

Would You Like To Get Involved ?

After chatting to a few blogging friends I realised I am not alone in my thoughts, one of my closest blogging friends Sonia started a seperate blog for “Finidng My Inner Girl” and my other friend, sweetheart Hannah recently posted about her life changes and how she is taking control, both have helped me to push this post from drafts to live and action.

So I thought I would make this a little haven, a place where you can come and share how you are feeling, each Tuesday I will share how my week went, how I am feeling, what ideas I have to help me on my journey and I shall open that post to be a linky, where you can share with me your posts from the past week, they of course don’t have to have the same structure as mine, you could share a weight loss journey, a heart filled letter to yourself or just how you have dedicated time to just you, anything that fits in with finding a NEW YOU, which will inspire me too.

Week 1 – My 5 Obtainable Goals

  1. Weigh myself, record it and take a full body shot of myself and share next week.
  2. Research Couch to 5k as a way to start exercising
  3. Spend 15 minutes painting my nails
  4. Clear and Tidy my Dressing Table & Desk
  5. Order Weight Watchers Books

They are quite simple, although sharing a full body shot of me next week already has my heart skipping a little too fast and finding the time to do my nails with my week already scheduled should be fun, but it’s 15 minutes.

Thank you to all who have taken the time to read this quite drawn out post, I am hoping not only I can help myself but some of you to feel Happy. xx

About Innocent Charms Chats

Kara Janelle, Plus Size Blogging Mama. Vintage Lover, Interiors Obsessed, Chair Crazed, Collector of Much remembering to Smile as it is the 2nd best thing you can do with your mouth.

  • Lucy

    Good luck Kara. I think putting things on your blog is a really good way of making yourself do things, I find that anyway. I’m sure by setting little achievable challenges you’ll get there. x

    • innocentcharmer

      Thanks lovely, friends like you will get me there

  • Good luck Kara! I’m sure many of us mums can identify with the struggle for identity post children. I am 100% behind you and look forward to your next post xxxx

    • innocentcharmer

      Thanks lovely, you are one of my “I will be like you” people, your red lips, smile and determination are all very me inside, I feel very lucky to have a friend like you behind me x

  • mummydaddyme

    What a lovely idea Kara, and good luck! I definitely think little goals help. x

    • innocentcharmer

      thank you lovely xxx

  • Sonia

    Good luck honey! Love the goals idea, I’m reading the Happiness Project at the moment and have something similar planned for 2014 :O) I hope I can continue to help and inspire you and we can achieve our goals together xxx

    • innocentcharmer

      You have been a friend who has helped me so much, I one day hope I can give to you just a tenth of what you have to me. I hope we can both achieve pure happiness xxx

  • You can do it Kara. But remember – you are someone. You are definitely someone to me anyway – you are inspiring. xx

    • innocentcharmer

      Wow – this is the most amazing comment I have received, I feel honoured for you to say such a lovely thing xxx

  • Alli Marshall

    You can do this!!! You’ve made an important step by committing your plans to ‘paper’ and now you can start to realise them.
    I can wholeheartedly recommend the couch to 5k app as that is how I started running.
    Give me a shout if you need any help or as a sounding board as I have many years experience of battling against the label “Daniel/Emilie/Harry Mum”

    • innocentcharmer

      Thanks Alli, you are one of my inspirations, I know you were never the size of me etc, but your determination is inspiring. I shall download the app. Thanks for being an awesome friend xx

  • Susan Mann

    I’ve been feeling like this too.But I bought some new clothes, cleaned out my old ones, lost a big of weight and changed my make up. I still don’t have a huge amount of time to get ready or go to the beauty salon, but they’ve made a little difference. Plus getting some new hobbies. I think you can definitely do this and I’m right behind you every step of the way. However, I think you look gorgeous and stylish just the way you are x

    • innocentcharmer

      Thanks lovely for being such an awesome friend, it is amazing how laying this post bare has brought so many people to telling me they feel the same. I love what you have done to feel better, they ar actually huge improvements, I love Joe Browns too, now for the weight loss. I am excited to have you behind me xx

  • Bex @ The Mummy Adventure

    This is so important. I am trying to get back to ‘me’ at the moment as well as I feel I have abandoned all my hobbies and just become a mum (not that that isn’t enough of course). You are an amazing and beautiful woman and I can’t wait to see some beautiful nails and a happier Kara x