This is Why


I hate times like tonight. When I cry for being happy and sad at the same time. I hate that people tell me they know better than me. They are wrong. I put to them how they could have sat in my living room this evening and disagree with my decision.

Tonight I watched as Addison giggled and jumped around trying to play with her brother, as most siblings do. It was the cutest thing I have ever seen in my life, she was like a little puppy with a bone, who after nearly 10 minutes finally admitted defeat, as the bone aka Grayson did not respond, apart from shying away. I watched as Addy couldn’t understand why, she is too young to explain too. That day will come.

So when people frequently these past months make apparent their views on why I should not try for another baby I put to you why should Addison feel like an only child, why should I as a parent watch and feel helpless at times like these.

Your reasons maybe valid, (these are what people keep directing to me – I don’t necessarily agree)

I still have PND
We aren’t financially stable
We have little time already
I am too overweight
We could have another disabled child
We don’t have the room
I couldn’t cope with Addy as a baby

But to name a few, but I believe I am a good Mummy, could I be better, hell yeah, but one thing I argue with anyone is I love my babies, both of them and I want a happy life for us all.
Why should I admit defeat and not have the family I dreamed of because life took an unusual turn for us. This is my life and wrong or right happiness will always be the key.

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Kara Janelle, Plus Size Blogging Mama. Vintage Lover, Interiors Obsessed, Chair Crazed, Collector of Much remembering to Smile as it is the 2nd best thing you can do with your mouth.

  • These are beautiful!!!! Really Beautiful!!!!

    Don’t listen to what anyone else says… Life is for living – do what you want when you want *Hugs*

    • Thanks chick, I hate to hear people say these things, it’s makes me feel inadequate as a parent, I don’t profess to be amazing but I think I am doing ok x

  • I think that you need to do what you want to do. If I was in your position and I could cope with having another child, then I would probably have another child.

    OK you have a disabled child, you also have a child that is not disabled. Unfortunately these things do happen. That means that it is not necessarily genetic. Although there is always a risk that something may occur but that risk is there for everyone expecting a baby.

    Only you can decide, I don’t know whether it is friends/family/people online who have been telling you not to have a child, at the end of the day it is your life, your family. I think Grayson is absolutely handsome and a credit to you. I think, from what I have read on your blog and on Twitter, you are amazing parents.

  • Cathy Glynn

    Kara your words say it all! Go with the flow and you know best, you’re doing a fab job and money isn’t everything. Addy would love someone to play with, I wish I had another for Grace as she gets really lonely at times x x

  • Jenny paulin

    I can understand why people would warn you off having another baby BUT only you know how you feel and if you feel it is right then dont let others sway your decision. As you said, Addisson needs a sibling she can have a ‘proper’ (i hope its ok to use thst word) relationship with and it will be hard for you coping with three, but in time hopefully the two younger ones would amuse themselves more.
    Its a toughie alright, i wish you luck with your decision making xx

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